Author: Bruce Cook

During our lifetime we are always busy planning and looking ahead and want to be surrounded with laughter, pleasure and happy times. As children we love our grandparents and other relatives and are not aware or want to believe that we will one day lose them. But we do, and for a while we miss them, but after a short grieving period we learn to go on enjoying every day life just as it was. Once in a while we remember something they did or said. As we get older and have families of our own we eventually lose our father, mother and other relatives and friends that have been close to us or our family, and this causes a different or deeper level of sorrow and grieving. I believe that this can also happen to children who are abandoned or in some cases affected by divorce.

I can recall the sorrow and pain that I had when my father passed away. He wasn’t only a good father; next to my wife he was my best friend. He not only raised me, but we worked together and went to the farm nearly every summer weekend together as a family. Dad loved to discuss the Bible and sing hymns, which we did in the evenings on our screened in porch at the farm. I know that dad had made his peace with the Lord.

Mom and dad had been married for over fifty years and her grieving was a much deeper and different kind of grieving than mine, not to say that I didn’t grieve, but I knew that I had to be strong for mom, especially on the day of the funeral. I prayed that God would help me, and He did. On the day of the funeral a peace come over me that I cannot explain, and I thank Him for that. When my mother passed away I again experienced a different kind of grieving. It was as though my grief on the day of the funeral was multiplied to cover both deaths. Even at my age I still think of and remember them often, but always with good memories.

During my lifetime I thought that I had experienced or seen people grieve in different ways and degrees of pain. But one evening I had taken my shower and was sitting watching television. The phone rang and my wife said that my cousin wants us to come over, that their only child had been killed in an automobile accident. They lived close by and when we got there the police were still there. During this time and the following days I had never experienced such grief anything similar to what these two were enduring. To lose their only son was nearly more than they could bear. Then I started to think that this must have been how God felt when he saw his only son being put to death on the cross, a grief beyond imagination. After seeing the movie “The Passion of Christ”, I am more aware of Jesus’ suffering and how God must have felt.

Grieving is a necessary thing for us to do, but I’m sure now there are different levels of grief, pain and sorrow that God allows us to endure.

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